Deconstruction is the undoing, the “taking to pieces” of the false self or the sense of the separate self. Life itself deconstructs the sense of the separate self. At some point a person surrenders to what life gives and takes, and this is known as mellowing. Probably everyone experiences the effects of life’s deconstructive power, whether or not they are spiritual.
The teaching of nonduality calls for a deeper deconstruction, a deconstruction of the one who is mellow. If one has a spiritual practice, life can serve as the deconstructor. You do not need anyone to break down your “ego” or false self. Still, some people function as active deconstructors of the false self. You may meet them online, in person, in books.
Try to understand why a person is deconstructing. If there is a false self that is to be deconstructed, it doesn’t matter what the motive is. However, you may want to align yourself with a deconstructor whose motivation works for you.
People try to deconstruct the false self for any one or combination of the following reasons:
When one is living in the flow of nature, are they living with motives? Life is lived and actions are assigned motivations so that humanness might be understood.