Just as we would have expected the sun to rise, we thought this baby would be born. But one of the four agreements says, “Don’t make assumptions.” Well, I’m sorry, but I think you can assume that two weeks prior to one’s due date, positive check-ups along the way, and nothing wrong being done, I’m sure it’s okay to assume the baby would have been born.
In my best friend’s case it didn’t happen. Two weeks before the due date, a placental abruption cut off nutrients and oxygen from the life within. The child could not be saved. He looked perfectly normal. A whole baby. With no heartbeat, he was baptized. He lay with his mother. His face was touched.
You only get two visitors at a time like this, heartbreak and love. At the funeral yesterday they walked in like two giants. The religious service was beautiful and scripted. However, those two giants took the form of the father who delivered a eulogy broken and holy at once as the small casket lay beside him with a small wreath upon it and a lit candle at the front. Here is the eulogy:
The Life of Baby Cohen
We are gathered here today to celebrate the life of our beautiful baby boy, Cohen Anthony Weaver. Baby Cohen was an unexpected pleasure to us when we first knew of his presence. We had our lives turned upside down while we accepted the new addition to our busy lives. As we waited for his arrival we were surprised by an early change to his schedule.
Baby Cohen arrived two weeks early but to our dismay he had already passed away before we could see his birth. After deliver of our baby boy, we knew then that although he would not see the light of day or feel the warmth of his surroundings, we have to have faith and believe that he saw the light of God and the warmth of His love.
As we held our baby boy, knowing he had passed on, we grieved in our own way. I held his little body, so silent, so still. I told our son I loved him and kissed him on his cheek. I sobbed as my wife also did and I said good-bye to our son. My wife held his little hand and kissed his cheek and felt the exact same love as when our little girl was born. She too said her goodbye.
I wanted so much to gaze upon his own eyes, as they are the mirror to his soul. That was not to be. He was destined for greater and better things beyond our comprehension. We accept his passing although we grieve for him in a way that words can’t express.
My wife and I would like to express our desire for all of us to follow our dreams and enjoy life to the fullest, for our little boy can do neither.
Baby Cohen, may you fly high to the Angels above, where in heaven your spirit will be free and forever with God and His love.
In closing, your mother and I want you to know that you will be forever loved, always missed, and never forgotten. You will remain in our hearts eternally. May you rest in eternal peace with the warmth of God’s love surrounding you always. Good-Bye my son, baby Cohen. We love you.
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The requested song was “Hallelujah” by Leonard Cohen:
Now I’ve heard there was a secret chord
That David played, and it pleased the Lord
But you don’t really care for music, do you?
It goes like this
The fourth, the fifth
The minor fall, the major lift
The baffled king composing Hallelujah
Your faith was strong but you needed proof
You saw her bathing on the roof
Her beauty and the moonlight overthrew you
She tied you
To a kitchen chair
She broke your throne, and she cut your hair
And from your lips she drew the Hallelujah
Now maybe there’s a god above
As for me all I ever learned from love
Is how to shoot at someone who outdrew you
And it’s not a cry that you hear at night
It’s not some pilgrim who’s claimed to see the light
It’s a cold and it’s a very broken Hallelujah
Baby I have been here before
I know this room, I’ve walked this floor
I used to live alone before I knew you.
I’ve seen your flag on the marble arch
But listen love is not some kind of victory march
It’s a cold and it’s a broken Hallelujah
There was a time you let me know
What’s really going on below
But now you never show it to me, do you?
Now remember when I moved in you
And the holy dove she was moving too
And every single breath that we drew was Hallelujah
You say I took the name in vain
I don’t even know the name
But if I did, well really, what’s it to you?
There’s a blaze of light
In every word
It doesn’t matter which you heard
The holy or the broken Hallelujah
I did my best, it wasn’t much
I couldn’t feel, so I learned to touch
I’ve told the truth, I didn’t come to [name of city where he is performing] fool you
And even though
It all went wrong
I’ll stand right here before the Lord of Song
With nothing, nothing on my tongue but Hallelujah
When my friend woke up the morning after the funeral, the radio alarm went off, the local station at once broadcast the song by Leonard Cohen, Hallelujah.